Two months ago, I shared with you my struggles with low self-esteem. I mentioned that oftentimes I felt like my inner voice was verbally abusive and at times, I was difficult for me to cope. I challenged you and anyone else struggling with low self-esteem to find a way to overcome these feelings of inadequacy.
Recently, an S&T Reader asked me, “So how does one overcome low self-esteem?” I told her that it was difficult and although I was still on this journey, here was a list of things I do to conquer low self-esteem:
I challenge my negative thoughts.
The average person has about 60,000 thoughts per day. Negative thoughts produce negative results and positive thoughts produce positive results. For that reason, each day, I take a moment to listen to my thoughts. I write down thoughts that are inspired by anxiety, fear, or self-doubt. Writing these thoughts down give me a chance to see what I have saying to myself. Oftentimes, I will feel a bit silly because I will realize that the thought is absurd. Most of the times my thoughts are not based on anything logical; it is pure nonsense. How can I believe that at 27 years old I will never find a job? That’s crazy, especially since I have a rich work history and am I very intelligent.
Also, I am a spiritual person. Bible scriptures, prayer, and attending church are helpful to me as well.
Fortunately, I am a busy body who only needs 6 to 7 hours of sleep per night. When I don’t get this amount of sleep, My Abuser, pops up. When I am tired, it is difficult for me to combat these thoughts and as a result, these thoughts stay with me. A good night’s rest gives me the strength to combat negative thoughts.
Take care of myself.
I need extra TLC, especially during difficult times. Eating healthier foods, getting more sleep, exercising, and even spending time doing the things that I LOVE are crucial. Also, I try to keep my hair and make-up looking nice. It does wonders for my self-esteem.
Seeking professional help and support from family and friends has been very beneficial to me. My supporters have put things in perspective for me and they will encourage me when I feel like giving up. Low self-esteem is one of the hardest battles that I have ever fought and I am glad that I have a strong support system.