I don’t make much commentary on pop culture nowadays because frankly, I don’t care about it. Very few artists on the scene inspire me and on a typical day, I listen to music from artists who do not even live in the United States.

Beyoncé is the epitome of Pop Culture today. This leading lady is an icon: sold-out concerts, numerous awards and accolades, commercials, and product lines. I cannot listen to the radio for 10 minutes without at least one of Beyoncé’s songs playing, and while I enjoy her music and can sing every word to her hits, (Get Me Bodied is my favorite.) she never really did much for me.

I held onto these feelings towards Beyoncé until I, along with 1.8 million other viewers, watched her HBO documentary entitled “Life Is About A Dream.”

Now, I am the newest member of the BeyHive, trying to get tickets to the Mrs. Carter concert like millions of her other fans.

My epiphanies on Queen Bey and why I now admire her:

She wants to empower women.

On her documentary, she talked about how much respect and admiration she had for women, how much she desired to make their lives better. Beyoncé, girl, we are drinking the same Kool-Aid cause that is how I feel all day!

When discussing my life’s purpose with an ex one day, he said to me, “You will probably end up doing something that helps women.” Although, I could call him a bunch of other negative things, I must admit that this was the most honest and sincere thing he ever said to me.

To empower woman is one of the reasons why I created Scribbles & Tostitos Blog. The only difference is that Queen Bey does her thing through music and me through writing.

She always struggles with how much of her life to share with the public.

Believe it or not, I am a very private and sensitive person. If there is something I don’t want you to know – it will not matter if you’re my roommate, boyfriend, best friend, mother, cousin, or brother – you will never know.

I value my independence and my privacy, so the decision to create a blog and make it public was one of the biggest decisions I have ever made. The stress, the anxiety, the butterflies I experience before publishing a post is overwhelming sometimes.

I want my S&T readers to identify with me, so transparency on my blog is a requirement. But at the same time, it is not wise to air out all my dirty laundry on the Internet. That delicate balance is the struggle of my life as a blogger.

She wants to Upgrade U. 

It must be the cold weather we are experiencing in Atlanta, Boston, New York and everywhere else because many of my homegirls are boo’d up. As for me, I am single; I rely on my throw blanket and a space heater to keep me warm at night. A date here and there, if I’m lucky and he’ll buy hot chocolate for me, if he’s ballin’ but for the most part, this woman is single.

It’s cool; I’m happy being single. Really, I am. But I still would like to take funny pictures with my significant other and post them on FB and Instagram with the caption, “#LOVE,” talk on the phone with him until the wee hours of the morning, and brag about how perfect he is on social media.

This anxiety is enough for me to take (dare I say it) the next thing that crosses my path. I struggle with keeping my standards in check and things in perspective. I have to remind myself that I am a GIFT. He will be upgraded by adding me to your dynasty. I do not need anyone to want me. I don’t have to manipulate him, convince him, cry for him to make him want me in your life.

So in the words of Beyonce, “Come harder this won’t be easy // Don’t doubt yourself, trust me you need me “

She talks to herself.

It is a great idea to video record yourself as you discuss your thoughts. Not only is it an excellent form of therapy, it is also a way to document your thoughts and hear them replay later. It helps you grow.

I tried it myself, recently. And I must admit, listening to the playback was awesome. When I listened to my voice on video later, I was encouraged; it put a little more pep in my step for the day.

She loves her some Jay-Z.

As strong as independent as I want to be, I also desire to be in love with The Man of My Dreams one day. The amount of support that I will give him will be incredible. I am a giving person, who has a tendency to spoil the VIP’s in my life. And there is no one that I want to spoil more than My Man.

I also admire the fact that she and Jay-Z kept their relationship a secret. We should follow her lead. The world (and Facebook) does not need to know who we’re dating.

She is close to her mother.

She values her family. I value my family. The older I get, the more I value my family. I realize that at the end of the day, my family is all I have. They are my foundation. I honestly do not know where I would be without them. And I hope I never find out.

She is a businesswoman.

She knows how to distinguish between business issues and personal issues.

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You can do business or you can be polite. They are not one in the same. –Paraphrased Quote from Queen Bey

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