You’re finally over the guy you thought rocked your world. It was a messy breakup so you two did not remain friends. In fact, you can’t remember the last time he crossed your mind. When you two initially broke up, you felt like the world was ending. But now, you’re smarter, wiser, and have a little bit more pep in your step. You’ve realized that his departure from your life was one of the best things that has ever happened to you.
Google “how to find a man” and you’ll discover that these keywords are some of the most popular search terms. While I’ve wondered to myself how to attract Mr. Right, I’ve recently realized that the easiest way to find the man of your dreams is to be the woman of your dreams.
Sure, you can read every book on this topic, change your hairstyle, lose some weight, or do whatever else to yourself that will make you feel beautiful, but the truth is that we attract what we are. If you are an intelligent woman, then you probably attract intelligent men.Read More »
Steve Harvey: Have you ever tried to out-give a woman?
Male Caller: No
Steve Harvey: Did you win?
Male Caller: No
Steve Harvey: Right, cause you will never out-give a woman. The least you can do is provide for her: pay for her meals and whatever else she needs. You cannot put a price tag on the amount of love and support she’ll give you in return. Sir, it’s priceless. So why are you complaining?
This is a conversation that took place on the Steve Harvey Morning Show a couple weeks ago. Say what you want to about Steve Harvey, but I respect the advice and help he offers women of all ages. His no-nonsense delivery makes it clear that women (and men) need to take a different perspective on how we approach relationships.
The caller mentioned above called the Show to complain about the woman he was dating. She required him to pay for her meals and buy her gifts and he didn’t feel that it was appropriate that he be her provider. He felt that she was not doing anything in return and as a result, he was becoming frustrated.
Steve’s argument above was right on-point. Women are amazing givers. An old theory suggests that women should marry a man who loves her slightly more than she loves him. According to this theory, a marriage with this kind of man will ensure that he will give as much as she does.
But even with this, I still think a woman will out-give a man on any given day. Our love is pure. It is unwavering. It is the closest thing a man will come to unconditional love on earth.
To the left, you will find a real text message exchange between me and some creepy guy I met at a networking event. To this day, I still cannot figure out how he got my phone number. I am also uncertain about what led him to the conclusion that I am an angry American woman. Contrary to his belief, I am proud of my Ghanaian roots. Creep.
A woman gets tired of being let down. She gets tired of men cheating on her; she gets tired of being a man’s back-up plan. She gets tired of being mistreated. Time after time, her boyfriend breaks his promises and her eyes have no more tears to shed. Understanding that a dream must be written in order for it to be real, I recently wrote these words down in my journal. At that time, there was no ‘Mr. Right’ in the picture, but I was rest assured that with a little faith and patience, these words will one day be true.
I met this guy who is PERFECT for me! Lord, thank you, thank you for saving me for him. He was sure worth the wait and even the heartbreaks that it took me to find him. It’s almost as if you created him for me. We mesh so well together. Like me, he values family, education, loyalty, ambition, and a relationship with you. He even is celibate and is waiting until marriage to have sex! He is my same age, with only a few months older than me. Our experiences mirror one another. He is financially savvy and makes a lot of money. He doesn’t cheat and he doesn’t sneak around. He gives me space, but still makes time for us. Each day he strives to do something that shows his appreciation for me. He often says he doesn’t deserve me. He says that I am the best thing that could have ever happened to him.Read More »