People say the dumbest things. It’s almost as if they speak before they think and if you’re like me, you’re often on the receiving end of thoughtless comments. I still believe that people have pure intentions; they don’t mean to offend you, but they do, unfortunately. Why not keep a running list of things to NEVER say to someone. I’ll list mine, and you can list yours in the comment section.
When are you going to get your hair done?
I was trying something new with my naturally coiled hair when someone asked me this question. I was a bit taken aback by her question, for I had spent 4 hours twisting my hair in the style it was in. Err on the side of caution: if we’re not currently in a conversation discussing hair, then don’t ask me when I’ll be getting it done.
You look tired.
Another way of telling me I look like crap. That’s not nice.
Have you gained weight?
Unless she is trying to gain weight, I wouldn’t mention this. Women are already conscientious about our weight.
Your ex is married/engaged/executive at a Fortune 500.
There is a reason why he’s an ‘ex.’ And there is a reason why I am quickly changing the subject whenever you mention his name.
You look cute today.
So, I didn’t look “cute” yesterday and the day before that?
Are you pregnant?
Excuse me while I do 2,000 crunches. I’ll wear all black tomorrow to hide what looks like a pregnant belly. And to answer your question, NO, I’m not pregnant.