Career-wise, the last 5 years of my life have been the most challenging years ever. I finished my graduate school studies during the Great Recession and attempted to land a job at government and not-for-profit organizations, which were badly affected by the economy's downturn. In July 2015, I took a leap of faith and drove 331 miles up to North Carolina to begin a new life. I couldn't be happier about the outcome.
It is only appropriate that I bid farewell to one of my best years ever by updating my blog. It has been a phenomenal year for me. I was unhappy with my life in December 2014 and in February 2015, I decided to make a change. I did what was necessary to make the change I … Continue reading So Hard To Say Goodbye…
The radio can be a bully. How many times has a song played on the radio and you didn't like, so you flipped to the next station that was playing the same song? No matter what station you found yourself listening to, the song was always on the radio. It was as if the radio is trying to tell you, "I don't care what you do, but you are going to like this song. I am going to force you to like this song." This is precisely what happened between me and my local radio stations. But, a positive outcome occurred. I began to appreciate the words from the seemingly ubiquitous pop song, "Love Myself" by Hailee Steinfield. The song so closely reflects the message of this blog that I couldn't resist posting.
I had my first "boyfriend" in kindergarten. I've place boyfriend in quotation marks here because I chuckle at how simple boyfriend/girlfriend relationships were in my childhood days. Feelings and commitment were foreign to me. My peers and I changed our boyfriends like we changes our socks. Boyfriends were only something we had in order to have something … Continue reading My First Boyfriend
When the time comes for you to make a change, you will become so uncomfortable. You'll have no other choice but to change.
You can always tell a woman's age by her attitude towards relationships. Women in their 20's are constantly second-guessing themselves; worrying about maintaining their crush's interest, and obsessing about how cute or athletic their beau is. Women in their 30's, on the other hand, are purposeful. They don't waste time; they have a five-year plan (which … Continue reading Dating In Your 30’s Vs Dating In Your 20’s
Country music served as the background soundtrack to a time in my life when I didn't have to worry about anything. So, today, I'd like to welcome Friday by sharing my all-time favorite Country Music songs with you.
On my free time, I've been reading articles on financial management, stories about billionaires, and other miscellaneous articles on attaining wealth. The tips I've obtained from such sources have been so simple; you'd think that everyone should know this, but apparently, they don't. If they did, I suppose everyone would be wealthy. Here are some tips on obtaining financial wealth.
A couple of years ago, I was interviewing for a position at a start-up. I had been on the job-hunt for several months and was becoming more and more desperate to land a job. The interview was going very well. The interviewer seemed impressed with my experience and credentials, and we were developing a good rapport. Given the engaging conversation we were having, I didn't think anything of it when he so casually asked me where I was living and whether I planned on moving away from home. In a sly manner, he added, "And you don't plan on having children anytime soon, do you?" It was so sudden that I didn't even have a chance to think about it. I was 26 at the time, so having children was the furthest thing from my mind, for I was married to my career. I quickly answered, "No." He offered me the position the next day.
They say honesty is the best policy. I suppose that's true when it comes to things like, telling your friend that the outfit she's wearing does not look good on her. It's true when your boyfriend says something that hurts your feelings and you have to confront him about it. It's true when taking an … Continue reading Honesty Ain’t The Best Policy
As I grow older and become more confident in my decisions, I realize how much I used to share with friends and relatives in order for them to validate me. I also realize how precarious of a position this is, for no one on this earth will understand you better than you. Looking to people for approval for who you are and what you're doing makes them into a god. And, ain't no one on this earth is worthy of that title.
The article below articulates my thoughts on marriage and long-term relationships. Our choice of a life partner is the biggest decision we will ever make and as such, we should choose carefully, not hastily. Furthermore, our goal should not be to get married before our biological clock runs out of time, but to marry the right … Continue reading The Biggest Mistakes People Make When Choosing a Life Partner
My boyfriend and I are approaching our 2 year anniversary and I just turned 30 years old. I understand why so many relatives and friends are becoming increasingly more curious about when will tie the knot. As my elder no-nonsense cousin so eloquently stated during the early stages of my boyfriend and my relationship, "You're not … Continue reading What To Consider Before Asking A Couple When They Are Getting Married
"Where are you from?" may sound like a straightforward question, but if you moved around a lot as a child or you are of a mixed race or cultural heritage, this question can become complicated to answer. Mix in the possibility that the race or culture that you identify with rejects or mocks you, you may be left to feel like an orphan child.
That day is finally upon me. The day I turn 3-0. The day I enter a new decade. I can't believe this day is here. Wow. I am getting older. I am maturing. Things that used to be important to me are no longer important. Things that used to not matter as much are becoming … Continue reading Thirty
Hollywood is more than just glamour, parties, and paparazzi. In some cases, Hollywood can take the best of you and leave you at the edge of a balcony ready to jump, as portrayed in the movie, Beyond The Lights. Before this movie, I did not understand the motive and circumstances behind celebrity suicides. I'm not … Continue reading Hollywood’s Deepest Secrets: A Movie Review of Beyond The Lights
Kanye-Fidence, as outlandish as it sounds, works. Try it.
The American education system has not done its due diligence in making sure students are savvy in all things concerning finances. In grade school, I do not remember taking a class on interest rates, credit cards, investment portfolios and other financial concepts. It is no wonder many millennial are in over their head in educational debt; … Continue reading If It Don’t Make Money, It Don’t Make Cents: My Journey To Financial Freedom
Every now and again, I'll stumble upon an article that describes exactly how I am and how I process information. This article, 16 Habits of Highly Sensitive People, describes me to a T. Sensitivity has its drawbacks but the silver lining is my writing. My ability to feel pain, sadness, happiness, and anger result in … Continue reading 16 Habits of Highly Sensitive People
Recently, my friend mentioned to me that she was done with relationships that are "long stories." We all have friends that when you ask how her boyfriend is doing, she says, “Let me tell you what happened yesterday or last week” and then, she proceeds to tell her version of a long story. Long stories, in my friend's experience, never ended well. Her advice: leave any man that gives you a long story and move on.