I know, I know. You don’t even have to say anything. I’ve been M.I.A. for almost a month now. I don’t even know where to begin in terms of blogging about what’s been occupying my time. All I can say is that if you believe in the power of prayer, please send a big one up for me. Pray for CLARITY. Pray for PEACE. Lots of decisions that I need to make in the near future. A bit overwhelming at best. When my mind is unfocused and things are happening fast, it is difficult for me to WRITE, even though my posts are pretty much planned, I haven’t had the mental ability to focus and deliver quality work.

Until my life slows down a bit, please take a moment to review my previous posts. I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I have enjoyed writing them.

Stay tuned… Periods like this always produce the best blogging material.

~ Yaa Yaa ~

Happy 2013 S&T Readers!

For those of you who check the blog each Tuesday, I owe you a sincere apology: I have been MIA for a month. Creating blog posts and maintaing a blog is taxing to say the least and I often need a recovery period, where I relax, reflect, and rejuvenate. For the past month, I have been contemplating ways to improve Scribbles & Tostitos Blog, increase my readership, and ultimately create a blog that reflects the complexities of me. Expect in 2013 a new and improved Scribbles & Tostitos Blog site.

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This year, I had a big birthday celebration. My friends, family and I celebrated my birthday on four separate days with four separate events.  Friday night we went to a lounge; Saturday night we went to a dance club.  On Sunday afternoon, we ate brunch. And on Wednesday, my actual day of birth, we went to dinner and Apache Café.

In the past two years, so many life altering situations have occurred to those around me and it made me more appreciative of my life. A distant relatives was found dead in her kitchen a few months ago. No one knows what happened. One of my mother’s friends was diagnosed with cancer and spent the better part of last year in chemotherapy. Another family friend is experiencing severe psychological problems, and though several people are encouraging him to be evaluated, he refuses. This next one hit close to home, I had a friend who was in a potentially fatal car accident last year. He came out alive, but with a severe injury on his hand.

I could go and on about unpleasant situations that I’ve witnessed in my 26th year of life. While I was worrying about where my next job would be or how to pay my car note, I had relatives and friends who were dying or dealing with the ramifications of chemotherapy, how they were going to regain full use of their hand after a severe injury, or how to deal with who apparently has a mental disorder.

Yes, I wish things were different in my life. No, my life is not perfect. But it is the life that God has blessed me with and it is the only one that I have. I spend too much time worrying about what people think of me, worrying about my career, worrying how to pay off my loans. All of these things are not important. What’s important is that we cherish every breath, every moment that we get while we’re alive because we don’t know when it will all be over.

Hi there Scribbles & Tostitos Readers,

I apologize for the looooong hiatus. What was meant to be a 3 week break ended up lasting for almost 3 months. For that, I apologize. HOWEVER, I am happy to say that during my hiatus was able to relax, release and rejuvenate and resume the blog updates with a refreshing perspective of Scribbles & Tostitos’ theme.

What’s the theme, you ask? Scribbles & Tostitos posts will chronicle my journey towards Self-Love.

I am a 20something Black woman who has often been afraid to be who I truly am. And admittedly, I have often been ashamed to be who I truly am. Cultivating self-love, self-respect, and a genuine relationship with yourself is what will make one successful in life. And I am committed to this journey. This journey, like many other journeys we take in life, may not lead to a final destination, for we can never love ourselves enough. But I am in it for the long-run.

With that being said, stay tuned for some more transparent blogs as I discover who I am, what I want, and how to love myself in the process.

I’d also like to bring your attention to an article that was posted in my NewsFeed entitled: “30 Things Every Black Woman Should Have And Know By 30.” ENJOY!

“Keerrrplum!” The sound that an owner of a new car never wants to hear, the sound that she cautiously tries to avoid. The sound of metal side swapping the passenger side of her pride and joy – her baby, her car. I looked over to my right to see a mindless 30something woman driver with long brown hair. She her head and looked at me as if I were the problem. You hit my car! How dare you! I thought.

That thought was followed by a series of Oh my gosh! How am I going to pay for this? What’ s my insurance company going to say? It was such a minor incident; no one was hurt. There was no impact when she hit my car. But should I call the police? Is my insurance premium going to rise? What’s going to happen now? 

And if that wasn’t enough, my thoughts continued: I do NOT need this to happen to me right now! I’m not working; no (real) income. The job offer may take a little longer than I anticipated. Bills are getting more difficult to pay these days, especially as my savings accounts diminish and my credit card balance rises. I should be working by now; I’m not. And on top of all this, my “friend” – he wasn’t my official boyfriend – and I just broke it off and I can’t really call him to share my struggles like I used to. Why is everything happening at the same time? 

And that’s where I stopped myself.  Lately, I have been challenging myself to remove the negative self-defeating thoughts and insert positive thoughts in their place. As mentioned in my “About Me” section, my favorite scripture is Romans 8:28, which basically states that All things happen for a reason. And this circumstance – even the unpleasant ones – all happen to make me a better person, regardless of how unpleasant it feels. Instead of raving about how wrong things are unfolding in my life right now, I’m going to boast about how wonderful it is. Be grateful that things aren’t worse than they are; look at the bright side of things.

And, despite whatever situation you find yourself in, I challenge you to do the same.