#100HappyDays: Day 5

wpid-20140504_201042.jpgNo one holds their head higher than a woman with a fresh ‘do. I am no different. Believe me when I say that when I get my hair done, I feel like a brand new woman. I feel like I can do anything I put my mind to. I feel more confident. I feel more loved. I feel more respected. Women, and Black women especially, spend hundreds of dollars each year to get their hair to behave the way they want it to. You can tell me that it’s outrageous to spend $200 on a new ‘do, but if you understand the feeling a woman has when she gets out that chair and steps into the world, you’ll understand why a woman feels tempted to spend half her rent on a new look.

In a world full of unrealistic size 2 models shoved in our faces, a woman is always second guessing whether she looks good enough. She compares herself. She puts herself down because she feels like she can’t look like Beyoncé or like the airbrushed model on the cover of Allure. No one can place a dollar amount on body image, self-respect, and self-esteem. There are no limits to what a confident woman can achieve. I’m not saying that a new hairstyle is the answer to self-esteem issues, but I am saying that it helps.

Today on my 5th day of #100HappyDays, my new hairstyle is what made me happy. Now, I’m not going to delve deeply into the 8 hours it took to achieve this look and the pain I endured from the yanking and pulling that braiding requires. But I will say that once I got out that chair and looked in the mirror, I was in pure bliss.

 

#100HappyDays: Day 4

CAM00525Meet Christina Stampley. She is the President and Chief Executive Officer for the House of Grace For Pregnant Teens, an organization that I worked very closely with over the last 5 months, to provide support to young moms. She is a dynamic force who will do anything (and I do mean anything) to see her girls succeed. I am humbled to have met her and to collaborate with her in providing educational services to 8 young mothers-to-be.

Today, the House of Grace hosted their first annual Teen Mothers Day Cookout in Jonesboro. I went and had the pleasure of speaking to young women, offering support and encouragement. Christina and I brainstormed ideas on how to reach a hard-to-reach population of pregnant adolescents. And I believe we have a new strategy.

Today’s #HappyDay was inspired by my time with the House of Grace. It makes a difference in my life to make a difference in the other people’s lives.

#100HappyDays: Day 2

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I got a mani/pedi today and one would expect a little pampering would make me feel like a room without a roof, but surprisingly, it was the “Happy” song by Pharrell Williams that elevated my spirits. I was driving in my car when the song came in the radio, and within a matter of seconds, I was singing along:

Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do

Kudos to Pharrell for creating a song that has made a powerful impact on people around the world. For, within the first seconds of this tune, my emotions are guaranteed to match the song’s title.

#100HappyDays: Day 1

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Day 1: #SpelmanCollege

Nothing made me smile harder today then the walk I made through my alma mater, Spelman College, today. It empowered me; it inspired me; and it encouraged me to pursue my dreams with even more energy and intentionality than before. I love my College. The professors, my classmates, the administrative staff has helped mold me into who I am today and for that, I am eternally grateful.

#100HappyDays: The Challenge

What makes you happy?100HappyDayChallenge

Hard question huh? To tell you the truth, when I first asked myself this question, I couldn’t answer it either.

Knowing what makes you happy is crucial to your well being and overall satisfaction with life. For, how can you be content if you don’t know what makes you feel at peace? A lot of people try to make themselves happy with tangible and intangible items like, a home, a car, a Macbook, fame, or even climbing the corporate ladder. Some of the happiest people I’ve encountered have led the most simplistic lifestyle. Perhaps we don’t need such expensive items to make us happy.

So, I ask myself today and for the next 100 days, what makes me happy? The 100HappyDays challenge requires me to post what makes me happy for 100 consecutive days. From today, May 1, 2014 through August 8, 2014, I will post a picture on my blog and on Twitter of something that makes me happy each day. Follow me on Twitter @scribsandtosts, #100happydays.

By the end of this challenge, I hope to have a collection of simple items, ideas, and people who make me happy. The collection will inspire me on rainy days and provide a new perspective on life.

 

The Complete Guide To Not Giving A *HOOT* What People Think

 Complete Guide To Not Caring What People ThinkHi, I’m Yaa Yaa and I worry too much.

I worry about what people think. In fact, I’m worried about what you’re thinking about me right now. I worry about things that happened 2 years ago. I worry about things that will happen 2 years from now.

And frankly, I’m tired of being a worry wart. It is debilitating.

I recently stumbled across an article while surfing the net. I chuckled as I read it because it helped me realize how utterly ridiculous it is to care what other people are thinking about me. While I do not believe in using profanity to express myself, I do agree to the points in this article: A Complete Guide To Not Giving A ____.

Happy Reading.

 

The 10 Most Embarrassing American Stereotypes That Are True

American FlagI was raised in public schools of suburban neighborhood outside of Atlanta. It was subliminal but I was taught that the USA does things the “right” way and other countries do things the “wrong” way. So, naturally, I believed the United States of America was the best place on earth.

Today, I am 15 years older and have more travel experience. I still take pride in my country, but I wouldn’t say that it is the best in the world. In order to say that, you have to know the rest of the countries in the world. Traveling has opened my eyes to alternative ways of living. For, who am I to say what is best?

I will say, however, the United States of America is not perfect. In fact we could do a lot better in a multitude of areas.Read More »

What She Gave To Me: A Spelman Story

Spelman College logoAs the years increase from the time I walked through the Alumnae Arch and now, I realize that Spelman helped me become the Woman that stands before you today. Here are four things my alma mater gave me:

1) A Strong Work Ethic.

Spelman College courses were not easy. One class at Spelman was worth more credits than any other class in the Atlanta University Center and rightfully so. There was always extra work and it came in the form of papers, projects, supplemental activities outside the classroom. If you scored an A on an exam or in a class, you earned every bit of it.

Lesson Learned: Translating that experience in the workplace, you don’t just do the bare minimum to achieve results in the workplace. You do more than what’s expected of you. Let your actions say  more than your words.Read More »

The One Thing I Learned That Changed My Life

frustrationLet me tell you a little secret: I don’t have my life plans figured out.

You may have seen my LinkedIn profile full of admirable job titles and though, If I could just have the opportunities she had, I would be further along in my career. You may have even seen the article written on me about the work I do in public health and thought, Wow, this chick is amazing! Or, you may have even seen the photo of me and Robin Thicke posted on my Facebook timeline and wished you could walk a day in my shoes.

Or maybe not.

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For My Little Sister Who Shows Off Her Assets

little girlNowadays, It’s not uncommon to see a 15 year old girl pose for a picture, by sticking out her breasts and buttocks on social media. It happens too many times. And frankly, I’m sick of it.

I don’t know whether to blame society and hip hop music for objectifying women, the lack of a father figure in a young girl’s home, or low self-esteem for the way some young girls flaunt their bodies for attention.  But something has to give.

If she were my little sister, here’s what I’d tell her.Read More »

My “Younique” Marital Vows

beautiful-black-brideA woman’s wedding day is a day that a woman begins planning from the time she is a little girl. Her heart is set on having the perfect wedding and marrying the perfect man. But why wait until you’ve found Mr. Right?  Why not get married now, regardless of whether or not your single? Get married to the most beautiful person you’ll ever meet. That person is you!

The relationship we have with ourselves is crucial to not only our personal life, but our professional lives as well. You need self-confidence and self-respect to ace an interview and convince an employer to invest thousands of dollars in us. You need to love yourself in order to commit to taking great care of ourselves, for why would anyone bother going to the gym and eating

Ringhealthy foods, if you don’t care about your body? The relationship we have with ourselves plays a role in how we treat others. In the same way that hurt people hurt people, loved people love others. It only makes sense!

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On The Time He Asked Me To Go Out with ‘His Wife And Kids’

wife and kids photoGoing on a date was the only item left on my bucket list during my senior year in college. It was Spring semester of my final year and all other items on my task list had been checked off. Now, if I could get this one checked off, I would have left feeling pretty accomplished.

We worked in the school bookstore together. Ever since my first day working there several months ago, he always showed me extra attention. It was quite obvious that he was interested.Read More »

What They Didn’t Tell Me About Being In A Relationship

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No one told me it was going to be this way.

Not that this is a bad way; it’s just that no one really tells you about some of the ups and downs that you’ll experience in your first real relationship. Your annoying friend who is always making updates about your relationship status on Facebook and Twitter forgot to mention a few things.

I am in a relationship now and here are 8 things no one ever told me about being in a relationship.

1. You will feel like you have split personalities.

Before He came along, I was an interesting person with an array of interests. Spoken word, apple picking, dancing, kickboxing, traveling and blogging were all part of my life. I spent a lot of my free time with friends and family. But now, I’m in a relationship, trying to balance spending time with him and spending time with friends, family, and myself. I’m trying to keep my commitments to all birthday parties, housewarming extravaganzas, weddings, and every other social outing. I’m trying to keep church commitments, attend family events, spend quality time with the family, and act like my new “friend” will not subtract the time I spend with the closest people in my life.  I’m trying to blog regularly, exercise regularly, spend adequate time on my personal and professional development, and enjoy my precious “me” time. I am trying to act like a single person in a relationship and can we say exhausting? I literally feel like I have split personalities!

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She Said What?!?!

?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????I’m happy-go-lucky personality, who always tries to find the silver-lining in any situation. But, sometimes, I’m tempted. I’m tempted to grab my boxing gloves and show off the not-so-nice part of Yaa in order to let people know that it’s NOT okay to say everything to pops up into your mind.

It’s almost as if people speak before they think and if you’re like me, you’re often on the receiving end of thoughtless comments. I still believe that people have pure intentions; they don’t mean to offend you, but they do. Why not keep a running list of things to NEVER say to someone. I’ll list mine, and you can list yours in the comment section.Read More »

That Simple Word That’s Hard To Say

That Simple Word That Is Hard To Say No

On this blog, I discuss my journey towards self-acceptance and high self-esteem. One of the quickest way to gauge self-esteem is to rate self-respect. An indicator of self-respect is one’s ability to say “no” when needed. It’s only the 16th day of the new year, but it seems as though 2014 will teach me how to say that two-letter word.

For a people pleaser like me, the consequences of telling someone “no” is something I fear. What if the person rescinds their friendship? What if I am no longer perceived as a “nice” girl? Or, better yet, what if I feel guilty afterwards.

At first thought, these fears appear valid. No one wants to be perceived as a jerk. I want to have as many friends as possible, and guilt is a companion that no one wants to live with. But what I have failed to realize until now is that saying “yes” to every request will only make me unhappy, bitter, and a doormat. Thinking of it this way makes saying “no” more appealing.Read More »