Before we get into today's post, I wanted to say thank you, S&T Reader, for your continued support of my blog! I have been MIA for the past several weeks, but that hasn't stopped by to check on me, read my posts, and make comments. My sincere apologies. My only excuse is that my life has … Continue reading My Husband Was Not What I Wanted
Category: Relationships
My Fear of Becoming THAT Married Woman
It is human nature to boast about things we’re proud of. But wives have to remember humility is key. We were once like our single friends struggling with relationships. As great as our lives are now, things may not always be this way. Things can change drastically and we’ll need our dear friends’ support. I don’t want to piss them off to the point where they roll their eyes and hit the ignore button whenever I call. My plan is to remain humble. Hopefully, my marital status does not interfere with my friendships. I hope I continue to be a good friend. And I hope my friends think so too.
They’re Having Our Baby!
The three discussed their plans for our family for the next 45 minutes. Since they were the experts on the topic, I did not interrupt. I smiled, nodded, and laughed when appropriate. They don't know our little secret.
My Wedding Vows
Hey S&T! I'm a newlywed! My wedding was in August. Ceremony and reception were both beautiful. The best part is that I married the man of my dreams. My wedding vows are written below: You are my favorite person. Kind-hearted, brilliant and driven. Considerate and encouraging. Wise and positive. You have changed me. You've changed … Continue reading My Wedding Vows
On The Time Bullying Was A Good Thing
The radio can be a bully. How many times has a song played on the radio and you didn't like, so you flipped to the next station that was playing the same song? No matter what station you found yourself listening to, the song was always on the radio. It was as if the radio is trying to tell you, "I don't care what you do, but you are going to like this song. I am going to force you to like this song." This is precisely what happened between me and my local radio stations. But, a positive outcome occurred. I began to appreciate the words from the seemingly ubiquitous pop song, "Love Myself" by Hailee Steinfield. The song so closely reflects the message of this blog that I couldn't resist posting.
My First Boyfriend
I had my first "boyfriend" in kindergarten. I've place boyfriend in quotation marks here because I chuckle at how simple boyfriend/girlfriend relationships were in my childhood days. Feelings and commitment were foreign to me. My peers and I changed our boyfriends like we changes our socks. Boyfriends were only something we had in order to have something … Continue reading My First Boyfriend
Dating In Your 30’s Vs Dating In Your 20’s
You can always tell a woman's age by her attitude towards relationships. Women in their 20's are constantly second-guessing themselves; worrying about maintaining their crush's interest, and obsessing about how cute or athletic their beau is. Women in their 30's, on the other hand, are purposeful. They don't waste time; they have a five-year plan (which … Continue reading Dating In Your 30’s Vs Dating In Your 20’s
Three Secrets To Keep
As I grow older and become more confident in my decisions, I realize how much I used to share with friends and relatives in order for them to validate me. I also realize how precarious of a position this is, for no one on this earth will understand you better than you. Looking to people for approval for who you are and what you're doing makes them into a god. And, ain't no one on this earth is worthy of that title.
The Biggest Mistakes People Make When Choosing a Life Partner
The article below articulates my thoughts on marriage and long-term relationships. Our choice of a life partner is the biggest decision we will ever make and as such, we should choose carefully, not hastily. Furthermore, our goal should not be to get married before our biological clock runs out of time, but to marry the right … Continue reading The Biggest Mistakes People Make When Choosing a Life Partner
What To Consider Before Asking A Couple When They Are Getting Married
My boyfriend and I are approaching our 2 year anniversary and I just turned 30 years old. I understand why so many relatives and friends are becoming increasingly more curious about when will tie the knot. As my elder no-nonsense cousin so eloquently stated during the early stages of my boyfriend and my relationship, "You're not … Continue reading What To Consider Before Asking A Couple When They Are Getting Married
Hollywood’s Deepest Secrets: A Movie Review of Beyond The Lights
Hollywood is more than just glamour, parties, and paparazzi. In some cases, Hollywood can take the best of you and leave you at the edge of a balcony ready to jump, as portrayed in the movie, Beyond The Lights. Before this movie, I did not understand the motive and circumstances behind celebrity suicides. I'm not … Continue reading Hollywood’s Deepest Secrets: A Movie Review of Beyond The Lights
How To Identify The Relationship With No Happy Ending
Recently, my friend mentioned to me that she was done with relationships that are "long stories." We all have friends that when you ask how her boyfriend is doing, she says, “Let me tell you what happened yesterday or last week” and then, she proceeds to tell her version of a long story. Long stories, in my friend's experience, never ended well. Her advice: leave any man that gives you a long story and move on.
The Man That Got Away
After being single for a long time, a woman can't help but wonder whether she has missed Mr. Right. Here's how I cope.
For My Little Sister Who Shows Off Her Assets
Nowadays, It's not uncommon to see a 15 year old girl pose for a picture, by sticking out her breasts and buttocks on social media. It happens too many times. And frankly, I'm sick of it.
What They Didn’t Tell Me About Being In A Relationship
No one told me it was going to be this way. Not that this is a bad way; it's just that no one really tells you about some of the ups and downs that you'll experience in your first real relationship. Your annoying friend who is always making updates about your relationship status on Facebook and Twitter forgot to mention a few things.
When She Told Him She Had A Boyfriend
She's in a relationship now. Flirting with other men is no longer an option. She receives a text message from an old admirer. Gently, she tries to tell him that she is no longer on the market. And this is what happens.
The Only Thing I Want To Hear From An Ex
You're finally over the guy you thought rocked your world. It was a messy breakup so you two did not remain friends. In fact, you can't remember the last time he crossed your mind. When you two initially broke up, you felt like the world was ending. But now, you're smarter, wiser, and have a … Continue reading The Only Thing I Want To Hear From An Ex
12 Qualities That Will Help You Attract The One
Google "how to find a man" and you'll discover that these keywords are some of the most popular search terms. While I've wondered to myself how to attract Mr. Right, I've recently realized that the easiest way to find the man of your dreams is to be the woman of your dreams. Sure, you can … Continue reading 12 Qualities That Will Help You Attract The One
A Woman’s Love: The Gift That Keeps On Giving
Steve Harvey: Have you ever tried to out-give a woman? Male Caller: No Steve Harvey: Did you win? Male Caller: No Steve Harvey: Right, cause you will never out-give a woman. The least you can do is provide for her: pay for her meals and whatever else she needs. You cannot put a price tag on the amount of … Continue reading A Woman’s Love: The Gift That Keeps On Giving
I Think I Found Mr. Right
A woman gets tired of being let down. She gets tired of men cheating on her; she gets tired of being a man's back-up plan. She gets tired of being mistreated. Time after time, her boyfriend breaks his promises and her eyes have no more tears to shed. Understanding that a dream must be written in order for it to be real, I recently wrote these words down in my journal. At that time, there was no 'Mr. Right' in the picture, but I am rest assured with a little faith and patience, these words will be true.
